who seems to be obsessed with sexual matters may have a problem. Perhaps some form of sexual abuse is going on in that childs home, or maybe the parents are just overstimulating the child in some way, but you dont want it to affect your child negatively.   If you find that the neighborhood children play doctor regularly, and especially if one child seems to be the instigator, find a way of stopping the activity. You may want to talk to the other parents, but certainly try to take your child out of this situation.   One consequence of such games, or of little girls seeing their brothers naked, is that the daughter may feel that she is missing something - namely, a penis. Again, dont make a big issue out of this, but simply explain to her that boys and girls are built differently and that she isnt missing anything; rather, she is constructed just the way Mommy is and is perfect just the way she is.     Answering Childrens Questions   If youre a parent, or if you hang around kids long enough, at some point you will be asked a question pertaining to sex. Many adults panic when con- fronted with such questions. Right away, they think that theyre going to have to explain the whole scenario, and theyre just not ready to do that.   My first word of advice is to relax. In all probability, the answer the child is look- ing for is something very simple. You should answer honestly, but give only one piece of information at a time and see if that satisfies the child. If children are too young, theyre not ready to hear the whole explanation of the birds and the bees, so dont rush into it without first ascertaining exactly what kind of answer they want, something Jimmys mom should have done in this example.     Little Jimmy   Little Jimmy was 5 and had just started school two months ago. One day, he came home and asked his mother, “This girl in my class, Kim, said that she was different from me. How is she different from me?”   Jimmys mom jumped to the conclusion that this was one of those ques- tions that shed always dreaded. She sat Jimmy down and spent ten min- utes telling him the differences between boys and girls. When she finished, she gave a deep sigh, hoping that she had answered his question. She asked him if he wanted to know anything else.   “Yes, Mom. Kim said she was Chinese. What does that mean?”